Those who walk the so-called ‘middle road’- attempting to avoid two sides of a polarity- actually accepts both sides, and then feel superior for ‘not participating’- but they have not done anything to solve the problem, in fact the opposite- they are allowing it to continue, they’re not stepping up and facing the problem and walking thru it, in essence they’re saying -don’t solve the problem, just walk away- and that is cowardice, negligence, ignorance to believe that if you ignore it it will go away.
You haven’t done or accomplished anything, but you’re sitting on the fence, just sitting on your ass- there’s nothing brave or honorable in that, you’ve sold out and are pretending you’re not responsible for what’s here- but you are because you’re here and you’re participating in this reality, even if your paticipation consists of just sitting on your ass, that is your participation, that is your contribution, because you are here, your existence is being supported, and what are you doing with it?
Are you going to just sit on your ass, or are you going to take responsibility and wipe your own ass- clean up the mess we’ve created here, so we can live in a world that’s actually worth living in- a world of responsible beings who create a world that’s best for all, rather than a world of fence-sitters who allow the world to go to shit as a result of what they are accepting and allowing by acting as if you can be here and somehow not participate, somehow not effect this world with your presence- it is not so- you are Here- now Act like it.
So, I’ve been practicing singing a lot lately- something that I’ve ‘always wanted to do’ – and within that was part of the ‘problem’ as to why I never seemed ‘able to do it’ and why/how I formed a perception of myself as ‘not able to do it’.
See, what I’d done is already judged myself before I’d even begun- as if somehow one should be able to just sing effectively immediately- I didn’t yet fully realize the point of that it requires deliberate consistent practice and training. I had fallen into this belief that those who were good at it ‘just were’. And that is how it would often be presented as well- by others and with my myself too where if I was asked how I was able to do something well, I’d say something like “gee, I don’t know, I just can”- thus supporting the idea that it ‘just happens’ like as if ‘by magic’ or just ‘automatically’- as if you either ‘can’ or you ‘can’t’.
This perception has really screwed with me and how I view the ‘ability’ to sing- wherein I then didn’t focus or concentrate fully on the point of practicing and training and drilling- as that’s what’s actually required to become effective at something.
From this ‘mis-perception’ that one should ‘already’ or ‘automatically’ have the ability, I formed self beliefs that I ‘was not able’ wherever/whenever I would try something and fail. I took this ‘failure’ to mean- I must not be ‘able’ to do it. Man- what a fuck-up that is! Considering that one must train to get effective at something, chances are sometimes pretty good that you might fail the first time you try- so just consider all the things I would have believed I simply ‘couldn’t do’ simply because I ‘failed’ the first time!
Within this, though, there was like a subconscious point of ‘wanting something for free’, like within myself, I had at some point decided that anything that ‘required effort’ I’d rather not bother- or rather, that I’d rather spend my time on things I’m automatically good at, as then I don’t have to waste time and effort on practice and repetition, lol- this from a belief that you can actually get things for free. But we live in a physical reality here, and thus you have to ‘get’ things through space and time. There is no free lunches.
So, realizing this basic point, that training and practice is required to develop a skill- has been immensely supportive, in that now I simply apply myself within what I’m training- realizing that I’ll only ‘get to that point’ of being effective, through the 1+1 actions I take on a regular basis, to hone and develop the skill. So now I am no longer actually wasting trying and ‘failing’ and judging myself as ‘a failure’, but am using my time effectively to practice and expand myself into and as this skill.
And within this, also discovering that the things I had previously ‘failed’ at are now open for me to try again, and see if it is simply a matter of requiring more practice and training on that specific point- so, now I’m finding I can do things that I once thought I simply couldn’t! How cool is that!
I am eternally grateful to the support I’ve received from those at Desteni and the Desteni I Process that I’ve been walking, which has assisted me with these realizations and applying them in my daily life, to be able to live practically and effectively and no longer diminish myself within accepting limitations- but to Expand myself in all ways- within this physical existence here, and be a Real, Effective human being Here- which is what I’d always wanted but never thought I could be!
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So I’ve recently entered into an agreement- and if you’re not familiar with what is an agreement, I have placed some links below, which can provide some perspective on what is an agreement. Basically, in a nutshell, an agreement is- where 2 beings come together as who they are here, as physical beings within this physical existence, to assist and support each other to expand themselves, as different from the design of a ‘typical relationship’ where 2 beings coming together only to support pre-designed pre-programmed mind-based personalities as an act they will live as with each other and will support each other in remaining limited to these pre-programmed personality designs, which, if you have experienced much of this, you will no is really not cool, and not a cool way to walk a partnership with another human being in this life.
So what is really cool about this agreement is that I entered this agreement, having actually considered whether this was a being who I could actually ‘get along with’ and stand with for life. It’s not something I just ‘jumped into’ without first taking the time to see who and what this being live as, so that I walk in awareness of ‘what I’m getting myself into’. Which is how I’d ended up in so many past relationships- and what happens then is that you do not effectively ‘know’ the person and in time, find out ‘the hard way’ that you were not actually ‘well-suited’ for one another. But by taking the time and ‘getting to know’ each other first, and testing our communication to see- do we communicate with ease, to see does the communication flow ‘naturally’, so to speak, you can establish whether or not the agreement will be an effective one, or whether there will be great difficulty and unnecessary conflict.
These were/are really cool points to consider, which in past I had not. I hadn’t realized the basic common sense of getting to actually know someone before you form and agreement with them- and within this then also considering- how well do you get along? This was a point I often ignored, due to the simple desire to be with someone/be in a relationship- where, I would deliberately ignore any signs that we might actually not be a good match- I would justify it within my mind and go into the relationship anyway, knowing on at least some level, that it was already doomed to fail. And then I would ‘lock myself in’ to these relationships within an idea that I must ‘make it work’ and that, theoretically, one should be able to ‘get along’ with anyone.
Theoretically, yes, but it is not here yet. Considering how we currently exist as organic robots possessed by resonant personality designs (which if you’re not familiar with what that means, check the links below for perspectives on that), we currently are not going to all just ‘get along’, easily and smoothly- and thus, it’s a point to consider, while we walk this process wherein we’ll eventually likely get to a point where it doesn’t matter, and anyone could get along easily and smoothly with anyone. But it’s simply not here yet, and thus for the time being, it makes sense to consider this point of ease of communication- as it will make both beings’ process much easier and much more fun, and both will thus be better able to expand themselves, and support each other to expand, within their agreement. And by being within as effective agreement as possible, one is also doing what is best for all, one and equal, within placing oneself in a position where one can expand oneself the most and thus they contribute more effectively to the whole, as one of the ‘smaller parts’ that make up the whole.
So what I realized is that it’s not to live it as a rule that you have to be able to have an agreement with anyone no matter what- but that it’s quite practical to consider the resonances such that you can make a decision that will flow and where it will be ‘easy’ so to speak to expand in your processes together, because there will not be a lot of unnecessary conflict created from resonances that are pre-programmed to not get along- so it’s not to live in spite of who/how/what we are manifested as currently- but to take that into consideration and see- what will be the most effective, for all, where what is most effective for two people in an agreement is what’s most effective for the whole, one and equal- like, if all parts of a body are functionally optimally, then that body will function optimally as well. Common sense.
So within realizing this I realized another fascinating point/perspective- which is that in considering what’s best for all here, and standing up to change what’s here- that it is not sufficient or effective to stand up only ‘within’ what’s here, but that it’s also necessary to stand ‘as’ what’s here- it’s exactly like you can’t have Oneness without the Equality- meaning, one without the other, is not enough to have ‘heaven on earth’- both points must be considered- that we are ‘one’, and that we are ‘equal’. One without the other manifests abuse. Thus, it’s from that same perspective that one can look to change what is here as how we’re currently manifested, we must stand up from ‘within’ and ‘as’ what is currently here as ourselves manifested- so, if you only stand up from ‘within’ existence as it currently exist- but do not also consider that we must stand ‘as’ existence as it currently exist as well, you will not be able to actually change this world- both points are required.
So, just a fascinating realization I had within this point of looking at the point of ‘considering what’s here’, specifically from the perspective of deciding to go into an agreement with someone- to not only approach it from a point of attempting to stand up from within the systems we currently exist as, but to consider also the point of ‘standing ‘as’ those systems’- ‘standing as’ meaning to stand ‘equal to’ and within that, meaning to first ‘accept’ what is here as oneself, and not trying to live ‘in spite of it’- as this creates unnecessary conflict- and that is what we must learn to stop doing-
Time to realize that there actually is no ‘freewill’ here in a time and space physical reality- that the only way to change reality is to change it as ourselves, by standing equal to it, and then standing from within what we have realized and accepted is who and what we’ve become. Within this, there is no ‘freewill’ or ‘freechoice’- one must look at oneself in self honesty and see- who and what am I actually living as? Thus it’s not a choosing, but simply a looking and seeing what is already here, as you, as who you are and what you live, everyday, every moment, every breath that you are here and a part of this existence.
It seems to be our biggest lesson here- is to actually consider the physical reality- to actually consider what we’ve manifested, within the realization that it is who and what we become, one and equal, and have to live with and within every moment we are here. It is this simple point of not considering what is already manifested that keeps us fucked- in apparently never-ending cycles of suffering and abuse- because we never take the time to actually deal with the problems that we’ve already created, and that are here and have been here all along, piling up like that pile of dirty laundry in that one corner of your room- that just gets bigger and bigger-
Except, when you look at whats going on in the world actually, it’s a lot worse than a pile of dirty laundry. It’s suffering the likes of which can never be undone, or ‘taken back’ or ‘compensated’ for. And that is the key with the physical reality that we must get- consequence. There is consequence to everything we do and live- and whatever we’re living as, we are actively creating it into this world, piling consequence on top of consequence, while ignoring the accumulation effect, wherein the mess we’re in just keeps getting bigger and bigger.
This is what we at Desteni are standing up for- to stand up and stop just continuing to let shit pile up and not taking care of it and manifesting more and more work and suffering for ourselves in the future. Because it is not going to get any easier. So we are standing up, within and as what’s here, to actually sort out this mess, once and for all, so that once the shit’s finally taken care of, we can actually get down to some real FUN- that we can fully really enjoy ourselves within the realization that all are able to enjoy themselves here and none needlessly suffer.
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Perspectives on Relationships & Agreements:
Relationship & Agreements 1 – Alice Bailey
Relationships & Agreements 2 – Alice Bailey
Relationships & Agreements 3 – Alice Bailey
Relationships and Agreements 4 – Alice Bailey
Agreement Support 1 – Introduction
Agreement Support 2 – Physical Comfortability
Agreement Support 3.1 – From Interpretation to Communication (LJ’s Perspective)
Agreement Support 3.2 – From Communication to Interpretation – Maite’s Perspective
Agreement Support 3.3 – From Communication to Interpretation – Maite’s Perspective
Agreements — Facing the Reality of Self
In recent interview Stephen Hawking claims that there is no heaven, it’s a fairy story for people afraid of the dark.” See interview here.
In the interview, Stephen Hawking comments that, “One can’t prove that god doesn’t exist- but science makes god unnecessary. The laws of physics can explain the universe without a need for a creator.”
I’d clarify this by saying that- one cannot prove to another that god doesn’t exist, yet one can prove this to themself quite simply- stop the belief in a god, and see if there remain any evidence that there is one, that actually exists, within this world in a capacity to actually have an effect in this world. Because we are in a physical world, if you have no physical presence here, than you do not exist, in the physical world, and are totally irrelevant here. If you are totally irrelevant here than you obviously must not be god, in any sense of the word.
Hawking makes the point here that ‘science makes god unnecessary’- now this is an interesting comment which ties into the point that since god is not here in the physical, then he is irrelevant, and, in fact, as Stephen points out, “The laws of physics can explain the universe without a need for a creator.”- this world is indeed a system which follows and moves according to specific laws of nature or physics. Indeed, existence and how it operates has been largely regulated to an automated system. Apparently god is lazy.
But, in fact, there are creators present in this world, whose do have a very real effect on the world and how it exists, and in fact are creating this world as ho it is in each and every single moment- but, we don’t call them gods, we call them people. And this brings us to the ultimate point or reason for the belief or following of a god, and that is- to avoid at all costs the realization of ourselves as the real gods of this existence, who are creating it in each and every moment. Indeed, ‘god’ is lazy.
So here is where Science falls short, in that it observes existence and the laws that govern it and calculates and quantifies these laws of physics, as if looking at existence as a giant pinball machine, yet- it fails to consider the players of the game, that the game, while it has a lot of seemingly independent moving parts, do not play itself.
Science still fails to answer those big questions like “Who are we?” and “Why are we here’? And perhaps that is why so many have filled the gap with religion, because they haven’t yet realized that they are the answer to those questions- that it is up to us to decide “Who we’ll be” and “What we’re going to do here”.
When Hawking was asked, “Why do so many human beings seem to need a god?”, he answered, “People want to think there is something they can relate to and which can make them feel they are not isolated but are part of the larger whole.”
We can see this is true for so many groups or clubs, they exist mainly so the members can have an excuse to come together and then feel that they have relevance in this world, that they have meaning, and that they are appreciated. And once again, here is a case of where the human tries to solve a problem by adding to it, instead of getting to the root cause of the problem in the first place. So the question to ask is- Why does the person feel isolated in the first place? Why do they feel they are not part of the larger whole? How is it that this has come to be in the first place?
How is it that despite the fact that we’re all here, together, we are so apparently separated and alone?
What is it that separates us?
It’s thoughts, beliefs, belief systems, opinions, judgments and our participation in these that keep us separated, and in fact they’re designed for that very reason- to encourage us to divide, because once divided, we can be conquered.
Because, in fact we are a part of the larger whole already, it’s not necessary to join any club to do so, we are part of the whole simply by virtue of being born on this planet- however- we’ve become so separated by our participation in the very things we hope to give us a sense of belonging.
We’ve learned to judge and separate from each other in fear- and this is largely due to the current money system we live in, where not all are equally supported, and thus some must make a living in any way they can- so we live in a constant fear and distrust of each other- because we live in a system in which we are literally pitted-against one another- How can we trust each other in such a situation? Of course we are not going to feel connected when we must be out for ourselves.
Thus, the solution to this loneliness- is not by further removing yourself from your world by believing in or devoting your life to that which doesn’t even exist in this reality- but rather to stop the separation within yourself, and to support a new monetary system, within which all will be supported- so that we can then actually be able to live here together without separating from each other in fear and judgment.
Finally, when Hawking was asked, “When will the human race meet it’s end? Are we destined to fail?”, Hawking replied, “Life in the universe will cease to be possible when the universe becomes cold, dark and empty in about 15 billion years. But the real danger is that the human race will destroy itself on a much shorter time-scale. To have the chance of long-term survival, we will have to spread out into space.”
True that the human race is quite busy destroying itself, but spreading out into space is no solution, as the problem is ourself, and thus no matter where we go we take the problem with us. The only real solution is to change ourselves to stop spiting each other, because we’re actually only spiting ourselves and creating a world that most people are unhappy with, and many are in poverty and starving to death and dying of treatable diseases. We will never be successful spreading out into space until we’ve effectively dealt with ourselves here. Running away from our problems is no solution.
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One of the major flaws within how the functioning of the physical human body is looked at, is it’s often viewed from a perspective of trying to ‘figure out’ how the physical is responsible for our behavior. Like, trying to determine a gene that is responsible for alcoholism- which would imply that the individual has little or no choice within whether they will be alcoholic or not.
Now, if it is so, that a gene determines a certain behavior, then there is really no point in investigating it, since nothing useful or valuable to the individual could come from that knowledge- except however, if you are in the business of developing drugs or medical procedures which could influence or change genes.
Thus the concept of certain genes being responsible for certain behaviors is then supported and spread by those who stand to make a profit from people believing that they can simply buy a drug or a special treatment, and voila! their behavior is changed.
What this would imply, however, is that as an individual, you have no actual self control, self will, self direction to be able to actually change yourself, that you are a total slave to the genetic programming within your cells. And, not only do you not have any ability to change yourself, but others would, through the use. of various methods like drugs.
In fact, this is already being done, there are people taking drugs, and ever increasingly so, in order to change themselves, to cope with various ‘disorders’ or ‘syndromes’ they have been diagnosed with. It is, however, not a solution, bcause these people are taking these drugs simply to cope with the problem, it does not cure the problem, and thus they may very well have to take these drugs for the rest of their life, and in many cases individuals become adicted to the drugs, as the body has formed a dependency on the coping mechanism, making it very difficult and manifesting sometimes seriously harmful withdrawl effects when one tries to stop.
And yet, very little, if anything is being done to find ways to assist an individual to change themself, so that they must rely on drugs and treatments which cost money, and thus some people are able to make a profit off this. Yes, it’s quite disturbing that people would actually be willing to make a profit off of people’s apparent inability to change themself, and instead of supporting the human are actually poisoning the human and leeching money out of them like a vampire.
What is needed is to work on and develop ways in which the individual can assist and support themself to actually solve and cure their problems, so that they are not merely ‘slaves’ to their genes, or become dependent on drugs to be able to have stability- This work is already being done at Desteni, where extensive researching and testing is being done, to determine effective ways that the human can actually direct themself and correct themself, without needing anything separate from themself.
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“Perspective on: Laughter
Did you laugh because you realised the ridiculousness of accepting and allowing such beliefs/perceptions of self influencing oneself?
Did you laugh as a protection/resistance mechanism used to not apply forgiveness?
Did you laugh because you realized that the exact same belief/perceptions of self exist within you?
Did you laugh as ‘hidden judgment’ of the forgiveness words – ‘thinking’ it not necessary to apply forgiveness?
Did you laugh through fear of facing you in application of forgiveness – therefore laugh in fear instead of applying forgiveness immediately.
Where did the laughter originate from?
How did you experience the laughter?
Did you experience the laughter as the entirety of you or from a ‘source’ within you?
What is laughter?
Where does laughter originate from?
Why do we laugh?
Is laughter an expression of me?
Is laughter a method used by the mind to hide instead of facing me?
Do I use laughter or is it an expression of me?
See – all experiences of self must be looked at with absolute self honesty – thus assisting and supporting self in making sure in every moment: I am self honest with me as me.
These are some really assisting questions to ask oneself in a moment when you laugh, to assist you to see why you are laughing, and are you laughing as a ‘natural’ expression of yourself, so to speak- or are you laughing as a form of mind-possession reaction to something, like as a way to avoid seeing or doing something and thus using laughter to support self limitation.
Laughter / laughing is a great way also to help one to let go of built-up stress, and to help ‘shake’ yourself out of a stressful moment. When you notice you’re all tensed-up and anxious, just stop, and laugh.
And if the thought comes up of- “But how do I just laugh? I can’t just laugh for no reason..”
Then you definitely want to laugh! – you just MAKE yourself do it, even if it’s awkward at first- that’s no problem- that is just because you’ve just never laughed without a reason before.
So, the next time you find yourself feeling like things are ‘getting to be too much’, take a moment for yourself, and laugh. No, it won’t solve your problems- but it will help release the built-up tension and anxiety- and THAT WILL help you to deal with whatever you are facing.
So, to continue now with the story of my process of becoming aware of what/how I eat, and separating ‘fact from fiction’, so to speak, meaning basically, discovering what was actually ‘real’ in terms of my eating habits/preferences- and I’ll explain just what I mean by that-
You see, what I realized was that I had never really considered eating and how/what I eat from the perspective of what it does to my physical body and whether it actually benefits my body or not. Now, I ‘thought’ I had considered that on occasions, but it was only ever from a starting point of belief, wherein I was following some knowledge or information I had heard or read, about what is apparently ‘nutritious’ or supposed to be ‘good for you’.
And therefore, I would attempt to make changes to my diet according to the knowledge and information, with the expectation of certain results based on the information I was going off of. Then I would view whatever I seemed to feel within me through those expectations. But I had not yet understood how I could be influencing and creating experiences within myself through my mind, and thus could not at that time, distinguish between what was an actual physical feeling and what was simply self-created through and by the mind.
And on top of that, I had no practical context in which to place my observations of what I experienced- meaning, I had no practical common sense perspective of how my body actually functions, or is ‘supposed’ to function, or rather, what is ‘effective’ functioning of my human physical body.
Much of the information available about the human physical body is not expressed in a common sense way looking at the hole picture from a perspective of understanding and taking self-responsibility for how we create our experience of ourselves and how we are manifested.
This is simply an outflow of the fact that we have simply not yet investigated ourselves in a common sense way, since we have been simply becoming more and more lost in the mind, believing more and more that the mind consciousness system is who we are, and more and more disregarding and separating from ourselves as the physical. Thus, our science often gets quite lost in this as well, losing itself within perspectives of ‘us’ being merely ‘observers’ to the physical, with no ability to direct the physical, like we are simply victims of the physical. For example, that our ‘genes’ determine our behaviour, taking away our response ability and making the physical ‘to blame’ for our actions. Some things may indeed be programmed into the physical, the problem is when we support the idea that everything is due to the physical, without considering our own participation, and considering how we are able to respond, how we are able to take self-responsibility and actually be able to ‘reconstruct’ ourselves as the physical in awareness of the consequences and outflows of who and what we live as.
So, it is up to us to actually start to investigate ourselves and sort out the mental bullshit from what is real, and that is basically what this process of exploring my diet was and is all about..